The Futility of Reasoning with a Narcissist

Good morning ladies and gents! It’s time for another blog post from yours truly, and I must say that life continues rolling along reasonably well for the most part. There are still things I’m working on in terms of breaking habitual patterns I’ve used for more than a decade in order to cope with life, and that’s simply because they’ve outworn their effectiveness nowadays considering that life isn’t nearly as difficult as it used to be.

Speaking of difficult, though. Have any of you attempted to reason with a narcissistic turd? I’m assuming most of you have at some point in time considering that you’re reading this post, although we all know what assumptions make in retrospect. So what exactly do I mean by reason with a narcissistic twat?

Well in fewer words or less, I’m referring to that point in time when someone “stands” up to the abuser in question by simply asking them not to abuse or violate personal boundaries. I.e. please respect me Mr. Narcissist because I have feelings and you’re hurting them. A lot of us have been there, and likewise we’ve done that.

Now why in the hell am I covering this topic? Well I recently had a dream which made me think about this, and I’ve also noticed people on social media wondering why in the hell their abusers aren’t satisfied just walking away altogether like their victims want.

So for those of you who have attempted such a feat – myself included – raise your hand if anything changed for the better? Oh, and uhh by change for the better I also mean in the long run. You know, something along the lines of a relationship with healthy dynamics in which all involved seek to grow and develop together in harmony?

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 Anyone? No?! Ya, me neither. Now I realize we all have our own stories to share around the campfire, but I also realize most of us can relate to the following words:

An abuser will RARELY if EVER choose to alter their maladaptive behaviors because that would mean they would have to change by admitting their wrongdoing, and it’s easier for them to continue projecting the blame since it puts the pressure on their victim. I.e. walk away because they’ll keep violating your boundaries if you stick around.

Why? Because an adult shouldn’t have to be told how to play nice with others. Why? Because adults typically tell children not to tease, prod, antagonize, disrespect, hit, and so on. Adults, on the other hand, should know better. So why even waste your time trying to instill life lessons into a schmuck who should already know treating others like garbage is a surefire way to end up lonely and miserable?

You owe it to yourself to ONLY accept people, places, and things into your life that will grow with you. Don’t deny yourself the pleasure of connecting with people, places, and things that WANT to support your attempts at mastering life and the universe. If there is such a thing…

Respect yourself, love yourself, and offer the same to everything and everyone else who comes into contact with you. But NEVER accept anything or anyone who should know better, yet continuously tramples your boundaries because they can and show willingness to do just that.

Many blessings!

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